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Susan · Senior Member

HELP! Im not sure how to deal with this...

Susan · Senior Member

Ok this is really a big challenge for me. The baby also has a physical malformation on her head... that make things difficult. Again... sorry if Im being to graffic. I need your opinion o this. REally!

honeyloves · Guru

This is tough! Omgsh :( p.s. I am glad to see you :)

sara zata · Guru

With that one Susan, I think you would be best off saying you cant do it. I sounds to me that it would be a worry to you. Even though I lost my first born at the age of 5yrs, I made an elf that looked similar to him just in his memory, if she could except a premie reborn in memory of him, instead of by photo's, you and she might be able to come to terms wth it. JIMHO. XXXXX June.

-- Edited by sara zata on Thursday 5th of May 2011 03:24:34 AM

juliadream · Member

I couldn't get undertake this request, I'd cry all along the work process (I almost can't force back my tears as I read your post) and empathize the sorrow of the family, as if I'd lose my little one. Don't take this work on my dear, it'd bring too much pain for you. I agree with June (I also bewailed her comment), you'd offer a nice preemie reborn instead of the poor malformed baby.

:'(
Liz

Susan · Senior Member

Thank you so much June and Julia for your words. Im better now because the mom and I choose a the Josie sculpt by Tasha E.
So im going to do her baby and is going to be very happy. Btw, excuse me Julia, it wasn´t my inttention to take your tears out. Sorry! =(

sara zata · Guru

That's great Susan, I am so glad you and the mum could come to some arrangement. XXXXX June.

-- Edited by sara zata on Thursday 5th of May 2011 03:26:49 AM

Susan · Senior Member

Yes June, I´m so glad too. I can´t wait to start working on this little one. =)

Buffington · Guru

This seemed to work out for the best for everyone. I'm glad. It IS hard sometimes to do "memorial" babies, especially when they are not alive when they are born. I have only done 2 as requests by the mother but they had lived for a short time and then died. It gave me pleasure to do this for the greiving mothers, but I didn't expect to feel such emotion from myself at how the mothers were when they saw the baby I had created of their child. They just broke down and cried when they saw the babies. And so did I! But they were tears of joy that someone would do this for them, knowing that their child died.
On the other hand, I do not believe I could have made a memorial baby of one as you described, especially with a deformity like you mentioned. I think it is good that you and the mother came to an agreement on the doll. You'll have to share pics in the artist showcase when it's done! HUGS

Susan · Senior Member

You are absolutly right on that Pat, she is acctually very excited... and me too. I can´t wait to start... ans sure, I´m going to show pics!

Buffington · Guru

Awesome!

Abby · Senior Member

I have done several memorial babies, like you Susan I was dubious at first but the emotional reward is amazing..no matter what anyone says they do help the mothers get through the grieving process. A couple who's premature twins I sculpted went o na U.K chatshow yesterday to share their experiance of having clay replicas made..I asked not to be named for fear of the inevitable haters that will no doubt be inspired by this sort of feature, but I sat and watched it and cried my eyes out..it was so sad but I also felt so proud and happy to see that my work helped them when they needed it most. You can see the clip here if you're interested :)
http://thismorning.itv.com/thismorning/life/mum-who-has-models-dead-twins

-- Edited by Abby on Saturday 21st of May 2011 07:08:05 PM

Susan · Senior Member

Oh Abby, I really want to watch the chatshow but it seems to be something bad with the video... don´t you have another link or something?

Liselle · Guru

I couldn't get the link to work either. :(

Buffington · Guru

The area where the video is supposed to show says that it is only able to be shown within the UK. Not sure what you can do about it. It's not actually the link, just the vid. But you can read some of the comment posts though, they are very emotional and in favor of the memorial sculpts. Some of the posters said they are trying to find out who did the sculpts as they want to contact you about making some for them.

Abby · Senior Member

Oh it's a shame it doesn't work..not sure how to rectify that. It would have been nice for sarah to see how the parents felt about the sculpt. I know a lot of people are asking who made them but there's only one of me, I already have a portrait sculpt to do and I'm having a baby in 10 wks time, so can't take on loads of orders at the mo.

Buffington · Guru

Number 5 baby in 10 weeks? Congrats Abby! Yes, I'd say with that going on you already have your hands full hun. I wouldn't take on more at this point if it were me. HUGS!!

Abby · Senior Member

Hee hee thanks Pat, yes i definitely have my hands full!! I find it really hard to say no to people if there's an emotional reason for them wanting a sculpt, that's why i think it's just easier if I don't put myself out there, then people can't ask me! I have stated that I'm not taking custom orders anymore on my site, but still get the occasional commission despite that, just enough for me to keep my hand in but not get snowed under! lovely to chat to you again btw, it's been ages!

Susan · Senior Member

Well yes, it's a shame I can't watch the show but I read the comments. There are so emotional. You are right Abby, I know it's going to be very special when I finish this memorial baby and put it on her mommy's hands. Sweet tears falling down...

Veronica Moore · Newbie

I'm new to this forum and think I understand your situation. Someone wants you to do a sculp of their baby, complete with deformations. You feel it would be too emotional to do so. Here is what I would do, if I were in your shoes, so to speak.

I would tell the mama that the project was beyond your capabilities as sculptor. Then I would offer to sculp a preemie size baby with the same hair, skin and (if possible) eye color. It would give her a rememberance of her little one as it could have been and might be a comfort to her. Good luck and I will be watching this forum to look for the outcome.

Susan · Senior Member

Thanks Veronica, actually im not a sculptor, I just reborn. But yes, in fact I talked to her and we already choose a doll kit to do her baby girl. The kit is on the way, it should be here by tomorrow! It´s a loooong way to Costa Rica from U.S.A... lol
I´ll tell you how it all goes =)

Buffington · Guru

Yes Abby, it seems like years instead of ages hehehe.

Good suggestion Bonnie, and welcome to our little family reborn forum! Nice to have new people come in.

Susan, I know you will keep us informed of how things are going with the memorial baby for your customer. Pics in the showcase, ok? :D

Susan · Senior Member

Sure Pat. I´ll post pics of the baby... I got the kit yesterday so I hope to start the baby by tomorrow, today was some of those days when you don´t want to do anything but sleep... and I had a terrible headache... poor me.. =(

Buffington · Guru

I know those days alright. Feel better hun!

cazzy · Senior Member

i read about the premature babies who died at 20 weeks in a magazine during this week, i hadn't relised it had been on this morning, you must be really proud Abby helping a couple over a difficult time, well done x

Abby · Senior Member

AW thanks Carol :) Was lovely to see that it did actually help because you never know it it will or not..It really made me cry tho seeing them in the flesh, I really felt for them.

Buffington · Guru

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